I realized that I haven’t written in this space for quite some time. Thank you so much for the messages asking if everything is alright with our family. The answer is: everything has been good. We are doing well. Living life, focusing on what matters, learning new things, and enjoying each other.
I have several reasons that I have stepped back from sharing here on the blog. The first and foremost reason is the division that exists in the autism community. It really is totally ridiculous. I’m so tired of people accusing others of not loving their kid fully if they wish that they could heal them. I’m exhausted by the constant “I have it rougher than you” and the “you just don’t understand” mentality.
We shouldn’t be beating each other up over what we do or do not do for our children. We should be encouraging, listening, and coming alongside one another to walk this difficult road together.
The other reason I haven’t written here is that I don’t want to constantly write about autism. Autism is a big part of my life. How could it not be? Having two children on the spectrum, I am constantly faced with the ups and downs of autism, but I am so much more than just a parent to children with special needs.
Today while driving home from the gym I said the following to Chris:
I’ve been thinking about blogging again, but I don’t just want to write about autism. Although it is a huge part of our lives, it doesn’t define me. I love our girls and I want to share about their struggles and their triumphs, but I also want to share more about me. I want to:
-write about the different books I’m reading or listening to
-get back to sharing my project life pages that I so love to put together
-share our adventures in homeschooling
-share the different things we are implementing in our home that make everyday life easier for me & the girls
-share the life lessons I really want the girls to learn
-share the constant funny things the girls say
-share about balancing my desire to be healthier with my love of food
-share what we are doing to really develop deep friendships & community with those around us
-share about our faith in Christ
I really just want to share my life with those that come to this space. Share whatever is going on in our life at the time. I don’t want to get wrapped up in number of readers, how many comments I receive, or other statistics. My hope is that people will come here, be encouraged, laugh, and connect on a personal level. That is all I want!
Chris’ response was simple, yet just what I needed to hear. He said:
I think you just wrote your blog post & I think it is perfect. You ARE more than just a mom to children with special needs. You have a lot to share with others. I love you!
So there you have it my friends! I look forward to being back in this space. Sharing our lives with you. Being real. Being myself. Some of the things I share might bore you to tears, but other things might excite you. My one desire is that you will connect in some way!
Make it great!